You may be a little intimidated by the dating scene, but don’t let those dating insecurities get in your way. Know your strengths, enlist a friend who’s good at pep talks to encourage you, and take a few chances.
Maybe it’s time that you made the first move for a change. Look outside your dating “type.” Date a little older or younger than you usually would. You’ll meet new people, learn things about yourself, and collect new stories to tell.
Perhaps the benefit of not haemorrhaging energy into family stresses?
For years I wondered if there was some new way to go about dating; some secret approach that no one had discovered yet.But alas, the older I get, the less I'm inclined to believe in such secrets.If you don’t have kids and your date does, are you okay with the possibility of taking on a stepparent role in the future?If you don’t have kids and want them, are you willing to walk away from a relationship if he doesn’t?Or so Carrie Bradshaw would have you believe; and she is mostly right.
But for me, and my three best friends, the key word is “want” rather than need.
While dating after 40 might appear to have its unique set of challenges, it doesn’t have to be something to be dreaded. Don’t let a sense of urgency or the proverbial ticking clock impair your dating judgment.
Use that wisdom that comes with age to carefully assess what you need — and to identify any red flags and non-negotiables that appear early on.
So we figured out – and accepted – that the right man does not magically appear when you’re ready for him.
You have to work hard to find someone you really want and really like – or, as one married male friend put it, “someone normal” (apparently normal men are in short supply).
One thing I've learned, however, is that the dating "basics" are still the same as when women were "foxy," and men were "fine" (and if you're unfamiliar with those terms, you're definitely not over 40.